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July 29, 2008

Finally, Back to Where We Were

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A little more than three years ago, after much discussion and thought, we picked up and left our lives in Virginia and moved north. It was not easy. We had lived in Virginia for 16 years, and being a military family, had made many good friends who were in many ways our extended family. That is one of the wonders of military life – you learn to make your family wherever you are, and you learn that you’ve got to take care of each other, because you’re all you’ve got.

This would be our first move as ‘civilians’, and we were moving to an area with basically no military presence, nor any real awareness of that life. Where we were in Virginia, there were 238,000 active duty, easily the same or more retired or former service, and the military was woven throughout the community. Here, there was barely a thought. Believe me, I still have to do mini-education of our doctors’ offices on how to file TRICARE, and even then 1/2 the time they don’t get it right. *sigh* They just don’t see a lot of it.

One of the things that saddened me most was the loss of our network, our surrogate family, in Virginia.  Would we ever be a part of this again, especially without the military constructs?  Granted, not all of our friends were related to the military – we met some through my jobs, school and other activities.   Still, I wondered.  And I worried, in our first year here when we were missing them so much.  How would we meet people?  Would they be as fun?

One of the routine activities of summer in Virginia was the backyard BBQ.  We had many of them, as did our friends, they were good times.  When we came here, there was no one really to have a BBQ with, which left us feeling pretty lonely.  Fast forward three years to last weekend.  I found myself in the yard with good friends, our kids running around playing with abandon, enjoying a lovely summer evening with laughter.  Oh, my, it’s good to be back.

1 Comment »

  1. I hated, absolutely hated, our first 2.5 years in this town for those very same reasons. Now, after 10 years, we are definitely “home”.

    I am glad you have a ‘family’ again!

    Comment by Jensboys — July 30, 2008 @ 4:41 pm | Reply

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